Why Most Men Don't Get Laid on Tinder

Why Most Men Don’t Get Laid on Tinder

Before I tell you the best way for you to get laid on Tinder, I need to tell you some truth about online dating in 2016. The truth is that Tinder and other online dating apps/websites favor women.

That’s right, online dating gives a huge advantage to women, this is primarily because most men will sleep with anything average looking or better (not surprising). Some guys stoop so low that they’ll sleep with anything that bites, even if she’s 300 pounds. 

Because of this, women get tons of matches and are flooded with dozens of messages a day from desperate beta males. So even an average looking girl has the ability to choose from hundreds of men. You can’t blame her if she chooses only to respond to the best looking guys. In fact, the best looking guys are the only ones who get a lot of matches and even then they can’t compete with the number of matches an average looking girl receives. 

There were some OKCupid and Tinder reports that showed some disturbing data for men, 

It was determined that the bottom 80% of men are competing for the bottom 22% of women, and the top 78% of women are competing for the top 20% of men. The male is likely to “like” the female 6.2 times more often than the female “likes” the male. The average female “likes” 12% of men on Tinder.

The average woman on Tinder only swipes right on 12% of men. That also indicates that even better looking women swipe right on even less men. This demonstrates the massive inequality in dating apps, women get to choose from the top males, while 80% of men compete for the less attractive women. 

So even though this sounds negative, it does bring some good news.

Just because you’re not getting matches doesn’t mean you’re not attractive. Of course there’s a chance you’re not good looking, but there’s also a chance to be decent looking and only get 1-2 matches a day. This doesn’t mean women don’t find you attractive but that they “think they can do better.” Because of online dating now, most women assume that they can date and attract guys that look like Channing Tatum. 

A man of average attractiveness can only expect to be liked by slightly less than 1% of females (0.87%).  This equates to 1 “like” for every 115 females.

Some of this may not surprise you. If someone told you, “good looking guys are more successful on Tinder” would you be shocked? Most of you wouldn’t, but you would be surprised at how many men women find to be below average looking. I was pretty shocked when I heard that women found 80% of men to be below average in looks. 

Either way, there are 3 things you can do to improve your chances on Tinder.

1. Take better pictures

Tinder Selfie

Tinder and other online dating apps/websites are primarily based on your appearance (no surprise there). If you have bunch of shitty selfies on your profile, you might want to consider that your pictures were the reason you got little to no matches. Some pictures can make a decent looking person look really bad. For example, some camera lenses on cell phones can distort the image of your face and make things like your nose look larger than it actually is. 

You could be a good looking guy but take a terrible looking photo.

Selfies, bad lighting, bad angles, and awkward facial expressions are usually the main issue. 

If you want a picture of just you, do not take a selfie. Instead get professional photos taken of you by a photographer or have a friend take a picture of you outside doing something. Unless you look like a male model, stay away from selfies. 

The key to having good pictures on Tinder is coming across as a guy who is successful or does interesting things. If you like hiking or going on long walks, have someone take a picture of you on the top of a mountain. If you like skiing and snowboarding put a picture up of that. The possibilities are endless. 

Another thing you should do is put up pictures of you and some friends. You don’t want to look like a guy that has no friends and never goes out. 

I’ve tried Tinder with a selfie before I knew about this, and I didn’t get a ton of matches. Once I switched my pictures up and made my main picture of me standing by the ocean during the sunset, the matches started increasing. 

Even though some guys might suggest against it, throw up a shirtless picture of you but only if you’ve got a good enough body. This will weed out some of the women that aren’t interested in just hooking up. So if your goal is only to get laid, a muscular shirtless picture will help (but don’t make it your first photo).

2. Improve your appearance

If you become a better looking man, of course your chances with women will skyrocket. I really don’t have to elaborate on this.

If you want to learn how improve your looks as a man, check out:

(10 Tips to Become a Better Looking Man)

Once you improve your looks take new and even better pictures, then watch the matches come in. 

3. Be patient and play the field

Why Most Men Don't Get Laid on Tinder

Not every girl you match with will be interested or even respond to your messages. Just like not every girl you flirt with in person will give you her number. Remember women are constantly flooded with messages from guys and are pretty selective about who they respond to. So don’t take it too personally if a girl doesn’t respond to you. 

It’s really about being patient and messaging every girl you’re interested in. If you message 50 girls, at least a handful of them will be interested enough to go out on a date with you. 

You don’t really need to memorize any lines or send them something funny. All you really have to do is send the girl maybe 5-6 messages to learn about her, and then ask for her number. Then set up a date and time to meet.

You might open with, “So what are you looking for on here?” or “Hey, how it going?” or “You look like fun.” It really doesn’t matter because if you’re good looking enough or appear good enough, then the specifics of your message won’t matter very much. 

Get some high quality pictures, improve your appearance and be patient.

When this happens, women will come to you.

If you know you’re a good looking guy though, you’re actually better off flirting with women in person rather than online. Talking to girls in person shows confidence and initiative, and you’ll have more success than you would online. However, if you really do want to succeed on Tinder, follow my steps and you’ll be good to go. 

Good luck.

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  1. I think its interesting that women are so damn picky nowadays. Its really hard to figure out why and kind of depressing.

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